![]() As the college was now on a break for the summer, the gang of friends were not going to meet. But nothing came through, zilch, not even an unromantic SMS. You were waiting for his call/message since morning. So when you top the class in the semester exam, you ‘expected’ him to congratulate you, maybe he will wish you in person, or get a bouquet of your favourite flowers or at least get it delivered. In a gang of 8 friends for a few years now, he is the one who has been consistent in wishing you on all your special occasions and being there in those key moments. He knows your strong points and understands your weakness. He has been there with you through thick and thin. “I have learned that as long as I hold fast to my beliefs and values – and follow my own moral compass – then the only expectations I need to live up to are my own. but to brood in sorrow and misery because you did not live upto your expectations, NO WAY. ![]() So for you to do well in every exam is unrealistic and its best you taper down your own expectation.Īnalyse, you must, review your answers you should, counter check with your teacher on where you went wrong, sure. Roger Federrer has LOST 11 times in Grand slam finals, but we talk only about the 20 wins. Sachin Tendulkar does not promise a century every time he bats. These expectations were, as mentioned earlier, a combination of multiple factors and all are qualitative in nature, there is no scientific proof that can gaurantee that just because you are smart, you should do well in every exam and should get a great score. Not so bad, but way short of your ‘ expectations‘. All went ok, you came out of the hall smiling and your guess was a 90/100. You made 2 pager note with all the key points, that you read once in the bus and once at school, 15 mins before entering the examination hall. You have prepared well, had a good night sleep the previous night, father ensured that you stood in front of chotu temple at home and prayed for a micro-second and mother gave you spoonful of curd before you left home. The result, you ‘ expect‘ to do well in the upcoming exam. You are smart, or at least you think you are smart, or people say they think you are smart, or maybe a combination of all theree. If you can learn to stop expecting impossible perfection, in yourself and others, you may find the happiness that has always eluded you.” There are four scenairos that you should be better prepared for: Similarly, if you are mindful of your thoughts which orient towards ‘expectations’, then it can prepare you better to handle the situation. ![]() So you do not don devillish tendencies for life, but for that brief moment, you ‘think’ like one. Well, its like for you to fight the devil, you need to ‘ think like the devil’ and anticipate its next move. ![]() we are not supposed to have expectations. Why we should expect something if it is supposed to be ‘unexpected’, i.e. The harder you hold them, the more likely they will crack.” So in order to fulfill (at least 1) of their unexpected expectations, here’s my article: Expect the unexpected. Lot of writers on this platform have shared their views on the topic, yet, there are readers who might want to still understand it even better. The challenge of expectations and how they drag us down is well known.
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